Everyone who really cares about their family life wants to maintain a healthy marriage. It is often a matter of setting the right priorities so we can keep a sensible balance, that allows us to be the good spouse, or partner, we want to be. But it's not always as simple as it first appears.
It can be easy to overlook the essential need to cultivate your relationship. Taking your partner for granted is very easy to do, but its also easy to avoid - if you know how. A healthy marriage requires you do some basic things. Here is just a few of them:
Take time to make time - for each other. Being able to communicate effectively is making time for your conversations, which should be in a setting free from other distractions. The television can be a big distraction so try turning it off so you can develop a real conversation with your partner. Try cooking together, or order in a healthy takeaway, and have a pleasant dinner with each other on a regular basis. Sit at a table too it makes conversation so much more fun than eating in the armchair!
Communicate effectively. Communication is the most important key to building a strong, healthy relationship. Effective communication requires you to be an active listener, and that means listening without making up your mind, beforehand, on the outcome. As well as giving you the opportunity to express your own feelings in a constructive way, it will also allow you to focus properly on what your spouse, or partner, is actually saying.
Avoid criticizing, ridiculing, dismissing or rejecting your partner for what he, or she, is saying. If youre feeling frustrated and sense that you are becoming angry, take a time-out from the conversation, and agree to resume it at a specific time later.
Always play fair. Dont expect to see eye to eye on everything because it just wont happen. Resolving conflicts depends on being respectful of your partner's feelings, even when you are in the middle of an argument. Let your partner know you value what he or she is saying, even if you don't agree.
Note that if you ever feel that you may physically harm your partner, walk away immediately and seek help straight away. Not to do so really invites a lot of trouble. Even though your temper may be getting frayed, step back and count to ten, or maybe even higher. That way you wont do something you will surely regret later.
Too summarize: keep smiling and remember to take time to smell the roses with each other. Work on communicating well; avoid being too critical, dont ridicule and dont reject or dismiss your partner out of hand. Just treat him, or her the way you want to be treated. With dignity, fairness and respect. That way you will keep your sanity and have a lot more fun with each other!
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